IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP A DISASTER OF TITANIC PROPORTIONS?

 

 IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP A DISASTER OF TITANIC PROPORTIONS? 

Imagine your current relationship is a VOYAGE that you willingly decided to take. 

But you are not the captain of your ship...or, are you?  Who is steering your ship? 

What are the dangers that you didn't or couldn't see coming?

OK...so you thought that you were prepared to take this wonderful trip. You packed your bags, you got rid of the luggage (baggage) that was too heavy to carry into the ship. Or, did you?  You thought that you were prepared for the trip...but were you? You thought that you packed everything that you would need, but you came up short. Everything seemed to be going well, the music was playing, the food was marvelous and then...

Were you or are you prepared to hit that "ICEBERG" that you didn't see coming?

I recently, told a friend of mine that his marriage was like a sinking ship in the middle of the Ocean of Love. I said: "Nothing can save a sinking ship in the middle of a rocky and turbulent ocean. It's gonna go down...whether you like it or not. God help the survivors."

These days, we allow other people or other things to steer the ships of our relationships.   We believe that Love is going to be like it is on television or in the movies and everything is going to be "smooth sailing" all of the time. But, true love is NOTHING like the stories we hear or see. So, when we hit THOSE ICEBERGS of trouble that we didn't see coming---BAMM!--- the ship starts to sink and we have to do whatever we can to save the passengers (you, your mate, your children, etc.) because there is nothing that you can do to save a sinking ship that YOU WERE NOT NAVIGATING!

Please read my blogs on HOW TO PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE if that is your choice.  Especially read the ones about how to pick a proper mate; and how to tell the good ones from the bad ones. Learn how YOU need to be the person someone wants to be with and not just pick the one you think that wants to be with you.

Get ready for the voyage of your life, but make sure your "lifeboats" are in order, that you have an emergency plan for any problems you might encounter, chart your course and especially, DON'T LET THE CAPTAIN FALL ASLEEP!! 

You see what happens when you let other people take control of your life?

Good luck...because you are definitely going to need it.

 

 

WHAT'S UP WITH C.P. TIME?

If you were raised anywhere near an African American household, you probably understand what C.P. time is.  Colored people's time is an American expression referring to a negative stereotype of African Americans as frequently being late. The expression is often described as a derogatory racist stereotype.

However, have you ever wondered WHY or where this habit comes from? Is it just a genetic thing where people of a certain color can't seem to get where they need to go "on time" simply because they are irresponsible or unorganized?  It is a genetic thing, but not for the reasons you might think. 

Think of it this way...for over 250 years Black people and most people of color had no use for time pieces otherwise known as clocks or watches. Especially if you'd just spent several months in the bottom of a dark boat on your way to an unknown place that ended up being as horrible as you could imagine. All you would know or remembered was that it was either daytime or nighttime; everything else in between was just being alive or dead.

The first mechanical clocks were invented in Europe at around the start of the 14th century, and became the standard timekeeping device until the pendulum clock was invented in 1656. Therefore, apparently...Europeans had a need to know what time it was, AND to be prompt for at least a few hundred years, before people of color. In other words, they invented the need to be mindful of being someplace at a certain time, and/or being punished for not getting there "on time". 

During the time of Slavery in America, it was common knowledge that the slaves worked from "can't see in the morning until can't see at night." What time is can't see in the morning? Some time before dawn, I guess. And, can't see at night?  Some time after the sun went down. But, there was no need to be specific.  If someone gave a function which they needed to attend, they were lucky if the person even showed up, sometimes. Maybe the horse or the carriage broke down or their car ran out of gas on the road. Maybe they needed to stop to take care of some other important business along the way and they were multi-tasking.

It wasn't until the slaves were free and even had access to a pocket watch or some other time keeping apparatus that knowing EXACTLY what time it was made any difference to them. They didn't need to get to work at any particular time, because most of them didn't even have jobs. There were no "banking hours" because they didn't keep their money in the bank; that is...if they had any and it was usually kept in a jar in the kitchen or under the mattress. Therefore, former slaves basically had a problem keeping up with the Europeans' obsession with being someplace within the parameters of being there at a certain time of the day.  

So the next time you get angry at someone of color not being where you need them to be at a certain time; exactly at a certain time...cut them some slack. It's not their fault unless they go by the old adage: 

"If you're on time...your LATE!" 

STOP SPREADING LIES IF YOU'RE NOT SURE WHAT YOU'RE SPREADING

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READ YOUR LAW BOOKS CAREFULLY PEOPLE...STOP SPREADING LIES AND MISINFORMATION!

Now it's personal...Now it has touched me and my family. My anger is off the charts, so now I have to meditate, medicate, (and maybe even fornicate) my anger away. This is the reason why I had to get off of FB in the first place, because of all of the misinformation and the LIES being told by people who actually THINK that they are telling the truth but don't have a clue. They just keep repeating the same shit that they have heard or seen without doing any of the research whatsoever.

BLACK PEOPLE (born in this country)--- ARE--- AMERICAN CITIZENS!! PERIOD!! SINCE 1865!!

They might NOT have been treated like they were citizens, but you don't put animals, or 3/5th of a human, or any other inanimate object INTO JAILS AND YOU DON'T GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TO VOTE OR SUE OR OPERATE UNDER ANY DUE PROCESS OF THE LAW if they are not classified as even being human! White law makers are contradicting themselves and White people as a whole are generally CONFUSED.

You would not be able to buy property, or complete any legal transactions (with another citizen), your children would not be allowed to attend public schools, and you would have to carry your birth certificate or some other form of ID around with you at all times to prove that you have a legal right to be in this country; no less have the right to work, drive, or vote, etc. here if you were not a human OR A CITIZEN.

What is happening in this country right now is a "TESTING OF THE WATERS"...to see how much they can get away with before there is a complete breakdown of Civil Law and Order. Because with the breakdown of Law and Order comes the institution of MARSHALL LAW, if and when the President says: "We have a national emergency, folks..." when actually NO EMERGENCY exists...we have a more serious situation.

HE HAS CREATED A SITUATION...that could turn into a National Emergency IF EVERYBODY ALLOWED THAT TO HAPPEN. There is no COVID health emergency, but there is going to be a FINANCIAL emergency, on top of a FISCAL emergency, on top of the complete breakdown of SANITY and SAFETY in America if someone doesn't stop it NOW. They are trying to make WHITE PEOPLE feel unsafe so they will go out and buy guns and possibly shoot another Black person for no reason and then DISMISS THE CHARGES for no reason.

Oh well...one less ROACH for them to worry about.

When you kill roaches in your house, you don't try to weed out the "good roaches" from the "bad roaches" --- you kill them ALL ---because you perceive that species of life to be a THREAT to your own survival. THIS IS NOT JUST A RACE WAR...THIS IS A WAR FOR SURVIVAL OF THE WHITE RACE. They actually think that they are about to go EXTINCT, so they are fighting to get rid of as many Black people that they can; without making it look like GENOCIDE.

But, they have been doing this to Black people under the guise of NATIONAL SOLIDARITY FOR THE LAST 50-60 YEARS (if not 360 years) but,as soon as Black people start making a little bit of money, or progressing in school, or becoming as successful or even more successful than a White man --- White people get all insecure and get their panties in a bunch because they think that they are about to be annihilated (by what?); maybe by something that they have created THEMSELVES! Black people didn't ask to come here...Your ancestors brought us here...So, now deal with it.

I look at these people like bad little children who need to learn their LESSONS (Bible lessons, that is) AND BE PUNISHED FOR THEIR CRIMES AGAINST HUMANITY. Because this B.S. just doesn't make any sense, and they know it. I would truly hate to be in their skin when the gavel hits the block in court. They will be held ACCOUNTABLE. You just wait and see...

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How I know that the COVID-19 Virus is not what they say it is

How I know that the COVID-19 Virus is not what they say it is, and the reasons why it's more dangerous than we think it is.

My mother used to tell me all of the time when I was a little girl that I didn't have a lick of common sense. I was very smart otherwise, but for some reason my second sense about simple stuff in the world was sorely lacking. Therefore, I've spent the majority of my life trying to develop my "street smarts," and my intuition, or whatever you want to call it, to make up for the fact that you cannot learn everything you need to know from a book. Sometimes you really have to be able to dig deep, put the pieces of the puzzle together, and make 2+2=4, all of the time. Consequently, I became very adept at putting puzzles together and doing complicated math problems; even to the point of becoming a Math teacher at one point in my career.

Now what does all of that have to do with the COVID-19 virus? Besides the fact that I also studied Biochemistry and was going to become a holistic doctor shortly after I graduated college, my mother was a Nutritionist and she taught our family tons of information about how to stay healthy, and how to live longer. Consequently, I also came to know my body very well. I knew when I ovulated, before I had my period. I knew the exact date of conception of my children, to the day if not the hour, also. I am so in tuned with my body that I told the doctors what was wrong with me before they could test me for any disease, or minor illness that I've ever contracted over the years. So, when the news first broke about the CORONA VIRUS, I noticed a few changes in my body immediately.

Six months ago (I am writing this on April 28th, 2020) I was in almost perfect health except for the fact that I had somehow contracted Rheumatoid Arthritis about six years ago, and was still experiencing some pain. Fortunately, I was also having some problems with my doctors and how they were treating me, and I vowed to get off of all of my medications and go "strictly natural" by cutting out inflammatory foods and eating a much healthier diet. I immediately stopped taking Ibuprofen (I was on 1200 mgs/day!) and I weaned myself off of a high blood pressure medication that I had been taking for over five years. I was beginning to feel better than I had in months. I had lost some weight and the swelling in my legs and feet had completely subsided. I was so elated, that I couldn't wait for the Spring to come, so that I could start my new walking and exercise program.

Thank God for small miracles, but unfortunately things did not work out the way that I thought they would. I knew that something was up when I discovered that I really didn't have high blood pressure, and that it was the machine that they used to take people's blood pressure that was the culprit and was giving me a false reading. Because when the medical assistant took my blood pressure manually, suddenly it came out "normal." It was if, she was taunting me and telling me that I had been the victim of a horrible medical scheme, all along. So, I also alerted several friends and family members about the scam, and I begged them to please DETOX their bodies and get off of these medications as soon as possible. Thank God I detoxed, because if I hadn't, I probably would have died. 

A friend of mine got sick back in February around Valentine's Day, because we were supposed to have gone out, but he couldn't make it because he just couldn't seem to "shake this cold" that he had developed. Prior to that he had also experienced an episode where he suddenly couldn't breathe and had to be rushed to the hospital. However, since he is a smoker, we just chalked it up to him having something wrong with his lungs. But, then I also began having some strange symptoms myself. Every time I would go outside, I would get dizzy and lightheaded. The symptoms didn't last long, but I noticed that I also had a strange residue on my face and neck when I woke up in the morning.

I live in Las Vegas, Nevada where it is mostly very warm even in the winter time, so I would sometimes sleep with my windows open to get some fresh air. But then, I started to worry about the residue when I noticed a thick cloud of something coming in the windows one day and settling on my window sills and floors. They also seemed to be "chem-trailing" the skies more often than normal. It was too early for pollen season and I wondered why they had started doing that again after many months of no activity, but then chalked it up to the fact that we hadn't had much rain and they wanted to help Mother Nature along. Boy...was I wrong! So, essentially we have been living with this thing for months--- maybe even for years!

First let me say that my lifestyle has not changed hardly one iota. The only thing that has changed for me is the fact that after the government put everyone on "lock down" I could no longer get the things that I needed from the stores, (what's up with the toilet paper?) and my job search program suddenly came to a screeching halt. But, I didn't wear any masks, I didn't bleach my groceries, I didn't wash my house from top to bottom, and I continued to live my life, as close to usual as possible. My son would come to pick me up, we would go shopping, then I we would go home. No different from before COVID-19. And, I always washed my hands when I came home from shopping or riding the bus anyway, because public transportation and supermarkets are very dirty places. But I wasn't washing them every 20 minutes or 10 times a day like they had told people to do...and some dumbasses actually did it!!

I am on my computer 8-10 hours a day, because I am a writer and avid researcher of Metaphysical subjects, so I am also around latent microwaves all day, every day.

However, I did notice a few minor changes in my body since January 2020; like waking up with a dry throat in the middle of the night, and the fact that suddenly my ankles had started to swell up again after being normal for over two months, and I began to have a funny feeling in my chest area around my heart. I began to have slight pains in one of my breasts and I started to have minor heart palpitations again, not related to my previous gall bladder issue (which I had to tell the doctors that I had; which was confirmed with an ultrasound. I had just been through a complete yearly physical exam.

 

Meanwhile my previous doctors didn't know what was wrong with me and I had to tell them what was wrong --- because I had stopped eating heavy fried foods several months beforehand. I also started to have a periodic ringing in my ears. However, something else important did change...I had got a new modem for my Internet service that I previously did not have---in February of 2020.

 

(Also note that my son works as an IT professional, so he is around computers all day long and sometimes all night long, too.)

Fast forward to March 2020 when all hell broke loose. I had a family member come to visit me in the beginning of March, and by the end of March she and her husband were in the hospital with pneumonia, probably related to COVID-19. Besides the fact that they lived in New York (the so-called "epicenter" of the outbreak), the fact that they were both on HBP medications, were very overweight and under a lot of stress probably exacerbated their conditions and caused them many more problems than normal. However, my family here in Las Vegas were all fine and never experienced not one symptom of COVID-19; although we were probably exposed to it back in March. 

 

Let me also reiterate, that we are generally very healthy people; going back to the way that we were raised by my mother, the Nutritionist, and the fact that I also breast fed all of my children, thus giving them all of the natural immunities that they would need for a lifetime.

But, no one else in the family got sick and the two who did get sick recovered, normally.

I even had a cousin who had had a DOUBLE LUNG TRANSPLANT get it and recover. 

It took her a little bit longer in the hospital, BUT SHE RECOVERED!!

Now, I understand exactly and completely, what has happened over the last few months, since we first became aware of this "new virus." I can't tell you everything that the government has planned for the American public, but I can tell you this. RADIATION POISONING IS A VERY SERIOUS CONDITION!! They have done study after study to confirm what the effects of the new 5G technology have been on animals, fish AND humans, and we cannot turn a blind eye to the fact that MICROWAVE RADIATION is very dangerous to the human immune system. It causes BRAIN cancers, heart palpitations, liver problems, high blood pressure and a host of other conditions that are very detrimental to our bodies. 

But, something else is going on in this world.

We are fighting a material and a spiritual war against Satan. The powers that be in this world will do whatever they have to do to get what they want even if it means killing a few hundred thousand or maybe eve a few billion people to do it. I have been studying human history for over 40 years, and I know exactly what is going on. If we don't wake up soon...we are not going to be here very much longer.  

 

This radiation animal has already ripped a hole in the ozone layer, which will now allow dangerous Gamma rays from the sun to enter our atmosphere. Even our own sun is trying to fight back from the onslaught of an unnatural condition in our solar system. I can't imagine what's going to happen this summer when the temperatures begin to rise. It is already going up to 101 degrees here in Las Vegas this week, and it's not even May yet. We usually don't get our first 100 degree days until at least the beginning of June.

COVID-19 is our bodies' reaction to RADIATION POISONING. However, people with normal immunities can brush it off like a cold. But, people with "co-mobidities" and weakened immune systems will probably have a much harder time, and may die from the complications. 

 

I do not have the space nor the time to go into AGENDA 201, The NWO, or what is going on with the Illuminati all over the world, today. All I know is that, viruses don't just travel through the air and you will not be affected unless you are standing right next to a person who is exhibiting symptoms and who has just sneezed or coughed right on you. It is much like a cold or the flu. If you are sick or you feel sick, you should stay home and take care of yourself until you are better. You don't go running around spreading your germs to other people. You also don't shut down an entire country for the flu, unless something else is going on behind the scenes.

The truth is finally coming out about how the virus got started and where it came from.

So, ask yourself the following questions:

1. Why does a virus need a patent? Was it created or did it occur naturally?

2. Why would our world leaders want to infect the entire planet with a deadly disease, if it did not profit them in some way?

3. Why are some people allowed to go to work and others must stay home? Isn't it dangerous for everyone, or is it?

4. Why didn't the people in Washington DC start wearing masks and gloves until someone brought it to their attention that they were making us do it, but they weren't doing it? Are they already vaccinated?

5. Why is it that some people should wear masks and gloves and some people don't have to?

We have governments that are on a mission to de-populate the world of humans, so that they can institute this new 5G technology for their own reasons, but mostly so they can make a lot of money. They don't care about you or me, and all they care about is making people do what they want them to do. This has nothing to do with how dangerous this virus is. 

 

I am not saying that it is not dangerous, or that 50,000 people have not died a most horrible death, probably gasping for air...what I am saying that, this virus is not just going to go away, magically. And...you cannot vaccinate the world. It's impossible. The only way that it is going to go away is if we TAKE AWAY THE CAUSE OF IT.

All over the country people are protesting the 5G cell towers and the technology that is being introduced in our communities, but the government does not want to hear our cries. It is like living with a teenager who wants to go to the latest party in the neighborhood without their parent's permission. Then, after they get drunk and crash the family car, they want to apologize and think that everything will just go back to normal again.

WE WILL NEVER SEE NORMAL AGAIN...NOT UNTIL OUR GOVERNMENTS REALIZE THAT HUMAN BEINGS ARE FAR MORE IMPORTANT THAN ROBOTS OR COMPUTERS.

It is all about your IMMUNE SYSTEM, folks. But, we don't know how long we can fight it.

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AN OPEN LETTER TO AMERICA

THE BREAKUP

To America;

Take your hands off of us. You disgusting P.O.S. Don't ever touch us, again. I don't even want to look at your ugly face. I don't care how cute and attractive you think you are...you are UGLY to the bone and I have all the proof I need now. I saw all of the messages. You can't deny a thing and I don't need your confessions and I don't need to hear your apologies, anymore. I know the whole truth, now.

You will never do this to us ever again. You've torn our family to bits. You've hurt and damaged our children beyond words. You've even hurt our grandparents. You make us sick. We can't even stand to have you around us anymore. You're a disgusting, amoral, snake in the grass. There are laws against what you've done, whether you think you are above the law or not.

You've never treated us right. You've stolen from us and used your money for whatever you wanted and left us hungry and begging for crumbs. And, we made you. You were nothing when we first met. We worked and slaved our asses off for you, and this is what you do to us in return? We loved you from the bottom of our hearts, and you've ripped it out of our chests. We will never allow another one to do what you did to us. You've lied, you've cheated, and you've stolen from us. You've pushed our faces into the dirt and put your foot on our backs.

But, We're not going to take it anymore. We've gotten strong and we know that you can't hurt us ever again. NO...YOU LEAVE! Pack all of your shit and get out the fk out of OUR HOUSE! Our names are on those papers. We just let you live here because you made all of those promises that you've never kept. SO NOW...IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO GO! And, make sure that you take ALL of your shit with you, so you won't have absolutely any reason to return.

We'll explain it to the kids. You weren't their real Daddy, anyway. Yeah, that's right...we already know who the REAL FATHER is.

Signed,

The Children of God

PARENTING ADVICE FOR TODAY'S STRESSED OUT PARENTS

I don't know exactly when it started or how it started but it did, and now this is what we've got:

Stressed out parents with uncontrollable children and no clue about how to fix the situation. Then, we have other parents who have escaped into a bottle of wine, or a joint of reefer, or some other form of escapism and are just waiting for SOMETHING TO CHANGE; not realizing that they are the ones who have to change and make the changes they want in their children.

The time to fix the barn door is BEFORE the horses are running all over the pasture...not after.

It may have begun when babies began having babies back in the 1980's; when sex was everywhere and unwanted children became the result. But, truth be told...young girls have been having babies for centuries, BUT IT WAS THE EXTENDED FAMILY GUIDANCE that usually got them through their parenting duties. Nowadays, it seems like no one knows what they are doing and everybody is totally confused about what to do with these new "Indigo Children," whom I say, are from another planet. They are so talented and creative, but they have absolutely no sense of decorum or respect for authority, whatsoever. And, that is because the world around them is so out of control.

There is hope and all is not totally lost--- because there are still parents all over the world who have raised wonderful, well-behaved and more importantly, RESPECTFUL children--- and that is the most important thing. What is their secret, you ask? They took the advice of someone who has done the job before, and knows how to do it. They usually had role models like a good parent, a grandparent or other family member or friend. They did not ignore the time-tested, effective methods of child rearing that go back for centuries.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child..." is not just a saying from the Bible that allows you to physically abuse your child into submission.

It means that, IF YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL of your own child, then ask yourself, who or what is in control? Modern parents, unfortunately must work to support their families and this is where they initially they have lost control. Children no longer look to their parents as authority figures. They have babysitters, and child care workers, and other family members, the television, their cell phones, movies, videos and you name it...everything and everybody except their parents to look up to. And, you wonder what the problem is? Even though the world has changed dramatically, that does not mean that you should just give up and give in to the bad influences. If you do...I guarantee you...you will regret it.

The 6 Easy Rules of Parenting

1. Establish the Hierarchy

a. You are the parent. You are the one in control and never let them forget it. The minute that you succumb to their wishes, or their desires, or their wants...you have relinquished control. (See #3. below about Punishments and Rewards) This does not mean that you have to rule the house with an iron fist, but you do need to let them know that they are not going to get away with bad or defiant behavior EVER! This starts when they are less than two-years-old and continues until they are out of your home. Just like my parents used to say: "As long as you live in MY HOME you will follow MY RULES." When they move out and pay rent somewhere else, then they can do what they want to do. But, as long as you provide for them, feed, house and clothe them, they must be respectful to you. However, RESPECT is a two way street...You must also respect them in order to earn their respect.

And, speaking of RULES..

2. Establish the Rules

Children do NOT do well wherever there is chaos. That means that children should have a ROUTINE, and you as the parent must make sure that they can and do follow that routine. YOU cannot be loosey-goosey with bedtimes, or mealtimes, or school work, or dress codes or anything else that has to do with running YOUR house in an organized manner. The minute that you break a rule or allow them to do something that you previously had told them that they could not do, you have lost the game. And, that means that you must BE CONSISTENT...not you can do it sometimes, but not at other times. It has to be ALL OF THE TIME. So, beware of children playing one parent against the other, even if both parents are not present in the home at the same time. This is usually an older child's trick, when one parent says to do something one way and the other parent says do it another way. BOTH PARENTS must be on the same page with the household rules, or else you will lose the child.

THIS IS CALLED DISCIPLINE.

3. Establish Clear and Definitive Punishments Along with Rewards

Parenting cannot always be about punishing your child when they do something wrong. It also has to be about rewarding them when they do something right, also. "You catch more flies with honey..." is a time-tested adage that means that a child, who is probably looking for your love and attention, will do anything to get that attention...even if it's your negative attention. There always has to be a punishment for wrong behavior, as well as a reward when they comply with your wishes. And, there can't be rewards for bad behavior, either. A child who misbehaves throughout the year but still gets whatever toy or game or special treatment, for holidays, birthdays or other occasions is a confused child. They will play you every time because they know that you will give in and they will get their way, regardless. Grow a back bone, be consistent, mean what you say and say what you mean. Never give children idle threats, because then, they will think that you are a wimp and will end up totally disrespecting you in the long run. You may not be able to beat your children according to the new laws,but there are several ways to stop temper tantrums without harming your child. My mother used a well-placed pinch under the arm until we calmed down. I used the "Vulcan Death Grip" on the shoulder (I hope I don't have to explain that one to you,) and then there is also the "Hug Technique"; where you hug and hold the child until they calm down so that they don't hurt you or themselves. There are many others but I will let you come up with your own, so long as you don't leave bruises or scars.

4. Establish the Love Connection

If you love your child as much as you say you do...THEN SHOW THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM. Dish out large doses of hugs and kisses. You only get 11 or 12 years to do this, after that you can forget about getting them back, but I guarantee you they will appreciate the attention that you give to them in the long run. Even if you are a busy parent, or an absent parent you can show your child love and affection on a regular basis. And, the more you show and tell your child that you love them, the more love and appreciation AND GOOD BEHAVIOR you will get in return. But, a child who does not feel appreciated or loved as a human being will turn against you in a heartbeat. Also, do not try to BUY YOUR CHILD'S LOVE or GOOD BEHAVIOR. We already know that guilty, busy parents are doing this everyday. But, most children understand when you can't always buy them what they want, but they don't understand why you can't spend time with them...AT ALL. A neglected child is a confused child, also. Quality time could be as little as 10 minutes a day, but it is like water to a dying plant when given to a child who just wants to feel that you truly care about them.

5. Establish Their Self-Esteem and Self-Worth in the Family Unit

There is nothing sadder than a child who does not feel wanted or loved or valuable to the world. Many parents demean their children by calling them names and making them feel less than human. Your child may not be the smartest, the most beautiful or the most talented crayon in the box...but that doesn't mean that you have to remind them of their shortcomings or physical imperfections on a daily basis. Teach them to love themselves AS THEY ARE...and, simultaneously encourage them to work on their flaws and weaknesses. Just don't make it a constant thing in the family unit, by allowing other family members to contribute to the mayhem. Never make fun of them and never allow anyone else to make fun of them either, because then they will begin to ACT OUT their feelings of disappointment and inadequacy in bad behavior; the very behavior that you are trying to prevent in the first place.

And, speaking of bad behavior...

6. Establish Your Role Model Status

Just remember: Your children are watching and listening to you from day #1. Never, ever say to them: "Do as I say and not as I do..." because it just doesn't fly in their world. As long as you are doing whatever you want to do, they are going to want to do whatever they want to do. Now, I can't tell you how to run your life and I would never attempt to do so. However, how can you expect your children to be well-behaved and disciplined when you yourself are a mess of inconsistencies? 

So, there you have it stressed-out parents. Six simple steps that you can begin to implement in your home right away. It may take some time to REVERSE the damage that has already been done, but at least you have a guideline now...and you don't have to take a long course or read a thick book that might not apply to how you want your children to be raised. Take your time, and take your parenting duties seriously. The end product will be a well-behaved, loving child who will make you proud in the long run.

Now, there is so much more I could add, pertaining to family dynamics, divorced and separated parents, making health care decisions, diet and exercise guidelines, exposure to appropriate and inappropriate media, negative outside influences, family trauma, substance abuse, and religious or spiritual training, but, I think that if you follow the above 6 rules...THE REST IS JUST COMMON SENSE.

And, please---read my stories about a woman who learned the hard way how to be a good parent. These are not parenting manuals...they are stories about a modern family struggling to find their way in a world gone insane with illness, bad influences, and just plain lack of CONTROL. 

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GOOD LUCK AND GOOD PARENTING!

IS CHOOSING A MATE...LIKE BUYING A CAR?

IS CHOOSING A MATE...LIKE BUYING A CAR?

Before you start perusing those online dating sites ask yourself some questions,first.

a. Is it street legal? Are all the "papers" in order? Are there any prior issues that might come as a surprise down the road? Do you have a legal right to ownership? Is it stolen or does it belong to someone else?

b. Is it new or is it used? Did the prior owner take good care of it? Are there too many "miles" on it? Does it have a lot of miles, but it's still in good working order?

c. Are you choosing it just because it looks good, but something might be wrong "under the hood"? Is it just a sports model; if so where do the children fit in? Does it fit your needs? Is it going to get you where you need to go and back safely and reliably?

d. Can you afford the maintenance and upkeep? Are you using the right "fuel"? Are you checking the "oil and tires" regularly? Are you going to run it into the ground through misuse? If there's something wrong, can it be fixed?

Getting the wrong car, like picking the wrong mate can ruin not only your day, sometimes it could ruin your life. What if there was an issue that needed to be repaired but you neglected it, and ended up getting into an "accident"? You could kill yourself and others in the process.

So, pick your VEHICLE carefully...take your time, and don't spend your money unnecessarily on a LEMON or a JUNKER. Remember: Even "new" cars can have serious issues...so choose wisely.

MORE INFO ON THIS SUBJECT HERE:

https://ishrinktheworld.wordpress.com/2012/04/06/is-choosing-a-car-like-choosing-a-boyfriend-read-if-you-have-trouble-choosing-either/